Hi Vanilla,
Yes you are right, we are in similar situations! So I mean it when I say I know how you feel.
I actually read about the clinic here on this website. An American company Renew Fertility organizes egg donation in SA and they put a post on this site a while ago. You can either do egg donation directly with the clinic in Cape Town. In that case, you 'only' get a description of the donor's age, hair color, eye color, etc, but you can't see pictures (legally not allowed in SA as far as I've understood). However, if you go to the clinic throught Renew, you get lots of pictures of the donor (because Renew is based in the States) plus a detailed profile. I guess it's some sort of loophole allowing people to get cheaper treatment in SA while still being able to see pictures of the donors. The downside is that the Renew fees make the whole treatment a lot more expensive, so if pictures etc. are not that important to you, you may as well contact the clinic directly. You do not have to go over there at all prior to the treatment, all they need is your medical/treatment files and a photo. They will then propose a match to you and if you are happy, they will start organising the donation.
DH and I have chosen to go with Renew, but that is just a personal choice.
Oh yes, before I forget: we initially chose the clinic because we read about it on this website, but when our London clinic advised us to go for egg donation after our last failed IVF attempt, they said: 'We would recommend SA, very good, no waiting lists, right 'type' of donors, and cheap'. We then told them we have already looked into egg donation and decided to go to SA. It was good to have SA recommended by doctors too though.
Keep asking questions if you have any!
xxx Han