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This is my second month on Clomid...I was really excited (and nervous too) about starting it, but TBH we've done the deed less these past 2 months than ever before.  Either I'm too snappy which causes ill feeling between us, or I'm uncomfortable down there, or just too tired.  I'm beginning to wonder if Clomid is worth the trouble?

Take this month for example.  I'm on CD15 now.  2 nights ago the OH was dying for jiggy jiggy but I just couldn't be bothered (not like me normally :().  Yesterday I got a +ve OPK so was looking forward to an early night, but the OH couldn't be bothered (probably payback from the night before! ^bigbad^)

I got really upset about it (my hormones are all over the place at the moment so it doesn't take much!) and ended up getting up at midnight, and staying downstairs til 3am, just to avoid having an almighty row (my fault due to afore mentioned hormones).

This morning, at 6.15am bless him, the OH woke up and initiated things (which I thought was lovely cos he doesn't normally like mornings when he's got to get up for work early).  However.....try as we might, 'performance anxiety' got the better of us and it ended up taking 2 HOURS  :-[  At least we got there in the end though :eek:

I've a feeling I OV'd earlier today as my cramps have more or less gone now, but that means unless we DTD again tonight, we've only done it once this fertile period - there's no wonder I'm not pregnant!!!!

Am I alone in this or is it the same for others?  I just want my old sex life back - it was lovely..... :'(

Sorry this is so long, but I needed to get it off my chest.
 

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Awww hun ^hugme^ ^hugme^

You are most definitely not alone...ttc is an emotional roller coaster as it is, without the added anxiety of our raging hormones due to the fertility drugs !
Gareth & I have had numerous arguements...primarily due to my hormones & sometimes he just winds me up purely for breathing...bless him he puts up with so much of my sh!te !!!!
I get stressed when it approaches prime time & if he's too tired I get stroppy because we're wasting valuable time then he doesn't want to get all loved up with me cos I'm being a moody cow...it's a vicious circle !!!
At the end of the day, it only takes one sperm ^sperm^ ^afro^

Don't give up hope...I know it's easier said than done, I've had a bad few days myself...I ovulate naturally anyway & am now on my 5th cycle...I have my down moments but then have to start thinking positively & that it will happen...for all of us :) ^reiki^ ^reiki^

Good luck & take care hun
Natasha :)

 

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Thanks for that - it's good to know I'm not on my own!

I feel like such a ***** sometimes and really do wonder why Matt puts up with it....he's at college tonight, so I've put a bottle of wine in the fridge to chill ready for when he comes home  ;)

It's a stressful (ish) time for us at the moment as we get married in 11 weeks - it would be lovely to think 'someone else' could be at the wedding with us :)

Thanks again and good luck to you too  ^reiki^
 

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Hi Loubie & Natasha,
Thank god its not just me!!!!  ;D  We are on our first month of Clomid and I threw caution to the wind & planned a special romantic trip away for last weekend, because I knew ov would fall on the Sat/Sun.  People keep telling us that the 'best time' is when you get away from it all.

So we went away last Saturday to Monday, and it was a really lovely place, but we both got stinking colds  :-[ and my ov pains were SOOO much that I was really having to try hard to enjoy the  ^BMS^ - when we managed to get the strength up to do it that is!!!. I actually felt so ill I wished we were just chilling out at home.  My poor DH was making a big effort but I felt terrible for trying to engineer this perfect baby-making scenario, poor little  ^sperm^ probably didn't stand a chance with all tension. 

Its mad isn't it?  This is the second time we've tried the 'going away at the right time' technique and I'm not sure it will have worked.  :( We've just gotta keep positive ladies.  You must have a lot on your plate with the wedding coming up, how exciting!  Hope it goes well and good luck with the Clomid.  ^fairydust^ ^fairydust^
 

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I've always found clomid makes me less in the mood. It's down to the way it screws with your estrogen.

You arent alone about the mood swings either. Some days I find it hard not bring the smacketh down upon everyone I meet :)
 

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Thanks everyone, it's so good knowing it's not just me/us :)

Maybe they should prescribe an aphrodisiac to go with Clomid....it's ironic that the rest of the month I'm fine, it's just those crucial 2/3 days that are a problem  ^idiot^

Anyway, I'm glad to report that the bottle of wine worked wonders, we were at it like rabbits from the minute he came home from college  ;D

Now it's the 2WW I've got to deal with AAAAAARRRRRRGGGGGGHHHHHHHH!!!!!

Good luck everyone  ^fairydust^
 

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hiya hunny, you are definitely not alone  ^hugme^

Although clomid has made me more frisky, ovulation is the one time of the month its uncomfortable for me down there yet we have to somehow get on with it.  Don't dispair that the ovulation pains have gone and you may have already ov'd.  I get the pains about 2 days before I ov so you never know.  Like Natasha says, it only takes one  ^sperm^ to find its way to the eggy. so fingers crossed  ^2ww^.

If you look on the relationships board you will be able to see how others find ttc and BMS difficult and ways it might help.

xxxxxx
 

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Actually clomid hasn't dampened my (already high !) libido...in fact it's made me even more frisky that usual...I've been feeling h0rny for the last few days but AF still here :-[ Here's to a great ^hump^ weekend ;) When I first starting taking clomid I thought I'd been prescribed viagra by mistake ;D ;D :)

I think it's more to do with the getting loved up on demand thing...I know Gareth's told me before that he's felt he was just "performing" & was just my walking, talking sperm bank !! :-[ :-\

The best thing I've found is to have as much "fun" as possible, lots of spontaneous "mucking around" & not to get overly conscious of when it's the "right time"...so it just kinda happens when it should...well, at least not make him too "aware" of when prime time arrives anyway, even though you might (if that makes sense ??? )...I think it's one of the main issues when ttc...lovemaking literally becomes babymaking...

Good luck & take care ^reiki^
Natasha

 

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I agree with you Minx- I try not to let dh know the time but doesnt always work. He gets performance anxiety too.

One thing I would say is that the month that I conceived we only did it on day 12.

Hope that helps.

Minx and Olive- hope you are both ok.

xx
 
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