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Hello Ladies and Gentlemen :-\

I'm deflated and confused today.  I wonder if it is time to accept that DP and I are wasting our time and maybe we should start looking into surrogacy, or perhaps, just go back to leading life without focusing on treatment.  Maybe it's just not meant to be for us.

I think I just need to get stuff off my chest and have a good sob.  I'm in a bit of a dark space at the moment.  I will bounce back in a couple of days and hopefully see things more clearly.

I have been treated for fibroids for the last 3 months (Decap) and they are getting bigger!  Dr Gibb at The Birth Company has told me to stop wasting my time and money and that I have no chance of getting pregnant because my womb is too small, the wrong shape, and the fibroids are getting worse.  (He's not criticising ISIDA or Dr Oleg, infact he's just delivered one of Isida's babies - he's just telling me he thinks it's impossible for me cos of my womb, and to save myself the financial, emotional and time costs.) 

He's recommended I see Adrian Lower (Fibroid Specialist) - who I can see people on here recommend highly.  I'll give him a call and see what he has to say.  Also, I'll call Larissa and see what Dr Oleg thinks I should do after discovering that the fibroids are worse than when we started.  :'(

I thought it was going to be easy with DE - I thought it was just my eggs that had gone off.  It turns out the oven is completely wrong too.  :-[  Ho hum! 

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Oh dear  ^hugme^ I don't know what to say but heres a hug instead ^hugme^

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Hi Podbean

Welcome to the broids thread.  Ah - sounds like you're on the old fertility rollercoaster!  Bloody pain in the ****!  You're doing all the right things and seeing all the right people so eventually if the time is right to move on you can at least rest assured that you tried everything.  I think we all have those 'maybe it's not meant to be' thoughts but then like you say bounce back and get on with it! 

Am sorry to hear that your broids are actually getting bigger - hope they don't give you too much grief and things start to turn around soon.

Whenever you need a rant come on here - we all know how you feel so you're not alone.  Big hugs  ^hugme^

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Hi Podbean,

Welcome  ^hugme^

What an awful time you're having.  Be sure to come on here and rant to your hearts content.

I hope that you get some positive news soon  ^Cuddle^

Paula

 

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Hello Snowbelle, Minni and Paula  ^hugme^

Thank you for listening to me and for your words of understanding and encouragement. 

After a night's sleep, support from you and other ladies on FF, and from DP things seem a lot brighter.  Plus Dr Oleg still wants to go ahead with the cycle and doesn't think things are as bleak as Dr Gibb suggests.  DP and I are happy to follow Dr Oleg as he is our main doctor and has been great so far.

The fibroids have been fine - I didn't know I had them.  I know very little about them but suspect I'll learn more on here.  Hopefully we can all be fibroid free soon. 

I can see that I am in good company and you have all had yours removed too. 

Thank you again for the kind words.  I will watch with anticipation your progress and keep you updated on my next scan. 

Lots of love
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Am sending you a big hug as feel for you  ^hugme^ ^hugme^. I have just had my fibroid remove by Adrian Lower and though I am only 4 days after surgery I can really recommend him. I was scared when I saw my first doctor but had a second opinion and felt a huge relief when I was told it could be removed. Now it is and I am on the road to recovery.
Never give up hope and fingers crossed it all works out for you  ^pray^

Kath
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Podbean, I really wouldn't worry about your womb size etc.
The fibroid can be effectively removed, and have you seen a uterus on ex-ray?  It's weeny ugly looking deflated bobbly ballon shape.... but hey - nature intended for it to stretch....just make sure any little one - is just that!

Seriously though - get the fibroid removed and concentrate on the next cycle....best of luck to you, I sincerely hope it happens for you - and welcome to the most supportive place on the web
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Hi Kath and Shiela  ::)

Sorry for not responding sooner.  Eventhough I've been on FF for a bit now, I still can't remember where I've posted.  ???

So thank you so much for the responses and the advice.  It does seem like this is the only thing to do - get rid of these fibroids surgically as the decap has not affected their size at all.

Kath, we went to see Adrian Lower.  He was really helpful.  DP came in for the scan so he could see what we were dealing with.  We have decided to take Adrian's and everybody's advice on here too and get them removed surgically.  We've decided we want Adrian to do it.  We could get it done cheaper in the Ukraine, but once we factor in DP's loss of earnings, the flights and the hotels, it won't make that much difference. Plus, it sounds like I will need two weeks to recover and I'd rather do that at home in provincial Purley rather than Cosmopolitan Kiev. 

Can you tell me if you were bed bound the fortnight following the op?  I'm pretty strong and recover quite quickly and wonder if I would be well enough to continue with Spanish Classes or if I need to put everything on hold for a fortnight?   

It would be good to hear about your experiences. 

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Hi Podbean

Glad to see you have made the decision to get the fibroids removed - I know how hard it is to make your mind up to go for surgery.  I would be very suprised if you were bed bound for 2 weeks after the op.  If you've been told you will need 2 weeks recovery time it sounds like you will be having a laparoscopy rather than a full abdominal cut so recovery time is much quicker.  (Full abdo myomectomy is around 6-8 weeks recovery time.)  I am now just over 2 weeks post abdominal myo and feel fine.  The day of the op you are kept in bed but within 24 hours they had me out of bed and even taking a few steps.  Within about 3 days I was able to walk around gently.  I was allowed home at the end of the 3rd day.  Its amazing then how much better you feel day on day.  I only took the painkillers for about a week and half and now have no real discomfort except for things like sneezing or twisting awkwardly.  The wound feels tight and a bit numb but other thn it's fine.

What I have been suprised at is how exhausted I feel.  This week I have done some 'normal' stuff like my friend picked me up and took me for a cofee and I went for lunch with family.  Although I may only be out for an hour or so I feel myself flagging and need a sleep when I get back!  I also find concentrating for more than about half an hour hard so your spanish classes may need to be on hold until you've recuperated!  Plus I seem to have real up and down days in terms of emotions - some days I just seem to cry for no real reason! 

Anyway, that's my experiences so far - all going pretty well and very suprised at how quickly the discomfort eases. 

Best of luck

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Hi Minni

That's very good news - about the quick recovery time. Not so good about the weeping but I can understand it.  Surgery of any type is a real stress for the body. So it's fully understandable, you would feel exhausted and in need of a good sleep and weep!

I am having a laparoscopy I think.  He didn't mention anything about an abdominal cut. 

Thanks though for the advice.  Think I'll put off the Spanish until August.  Someone's just invited me to a volley and bolley party on July 5th - but suspect that's out then! 

It's good news that you have only had to take the painkillers for about a week and a half.  The sneezing thing is a drag isn't it.  When I had a really bad back - sneezing was unbelievably painful.  :'(

Good to know that the discomfort eases quite quickly.  All the best for a hasty fully recovery.

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You've made the best decision you are ever likely to make Podbean....well done hun - thats the hard part done!
Unfortunately the chances of being able to carry a pregnancy to full term with a fibroid - is extremely unlikely - so getting rid of the fibroid (especially via a lap prcedure) will only enhance the chances of success with getting pregnant.

Yep, with the dr's saying 2 weeks recovery - it seems that they may well go for a lap procedure, rather than an open myo.

If there is anything you are concerned about - please post, we've all been in that scary, intimidating and worrying place you find yourself in now - and we're doing fine....
best of luck with your treatment.
Sheila - awaiting the possibility of a successful ICSI soon !!! (Fingers and toes crossed)
 

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Hi Podbean

I am only 8 days out of surgery and haven't been bed bound at all. I was out of hospital the next day and the 4 hour drive home was exhausting and uncomfortable but worth it in the end. Just have lots of pillows (advice I picked up from here) in the car to protect your belly.

I have four scars, none more than an inch long, and some bruising on my stomach and down below as i had a hysteroscopy as well. You should be up and about a few hours after surgery. The first time I went to the loo a nurse came with me to make sure I was steady on my feet and after that I was fine. I am off the prescribed pain killers and just on over the counter ones now as the internal wound is still very tender. It is the lack of energy which is most suprising. Some days I feel ok and other days I am shattered so I am just taking a day at a time. I am also 5 weeks since my last zoladex injection so am a bit teary which doesn't help. Stitches are out tomorrow which will be a huge relief.

Best advice I can offer is to make sure you give yourself time to heal and dont rush out doing anything.

Good luck and fingers crossed it all goes ok for you  ^hugme^

Take care

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Kath

Glad to hear you are recovering well and it's reassuring (in the right way!) that you also feel teary from time to time.  I was almost too embarrassed to admit that but now you've said the same I realise it's normal!

I hadn't actually thought about it being after-effects of the shots as well as the op

Hurray for this board!

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Message for Podbean:-

Tried to PM you but your box is full!!

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Hi daisy

It's at 86% now.  Will do more pruning tomorrow when I'm back at home.

Kath, Mini and Shiela - again thank you so much for sharing your experience of the operation. 

In an hurry now, but will fill you in more early next week with date and stuff.  I'm sure I'll have lots more questions.

Speak to you all very soon, and again, thank you for your support.

Lots of love
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