Hi,
I have just started back at work 3 days a week following nearly 2 years mat leave. My 2 little ones go to nursery and im not sure if im doing the right thing. Financialy I dont gain a thing by going back to work, but I did want to return and I was happy for the LOs to go to nursery as I thought it would be good for their development etc. But I now feel so, so guilty about leaving them there. The second day I went to pick them up, my 8 month yr old DS was sleeping. But I was horrified to see that he had been swaddled really tight in a cotton sheet and wraped up n a bean bag bed. I picked him up and took of the sheet and he was BOLILNG hot! he was drenched to his vest. I was so angry as i have always taken so much care not to overheat cos of sids etc. I assumed that safe sleeping would be a problem at a nursery as staff are qualified. I complained to the manager and she assured me that it would not happen again, but I have lost confidence and spent all da in work today worried sick.
I feel like just quitting and taking them from nursery, but my 22 month DD really loves it there.
Just dont know what to think.
a worried and anxious shara XX
I have just started back at work 3 days a week following nearly 2 years mat leave. My 2 little ones go to nursery and im not sure if im doing the right thing. Financialy I dont gain a thing by going back to work, but I did want to return and I was happy for the LOs to go to nursery as I thought it would be good for their development etc. But I now feel so, so guilty about leaving them there. The second day I went to pick them up, my 8 month yr old DS was sleeping. But I was horrified to see that he had been swaddled really tight in a cotton sheet and wraped up n a bean bag bed. I picked him up and took of the sheet and he was BOLILNG hot! he was drenched to his vest. I was so angry as i have always taken so much care not to overheat cos of sids etc. I assumed that safe sleeping would be a problem at a nursery as staff are qualified. I complained to the manager and she assured me that it would not happen again, but I have lost confidence and spent all da in work today worried sick.
I feel like just quitting and taking them from nursery, but my 22 month DD really loves it there.
Just dont know what to think.
a worried and anxious shara XX
It is a really hard desision to make, the whole returning to work one, I've just gone thru it myself and with my 2 I'm not returning to work as i would suddenly have to pay for nursery for 2 when I wasn't paaying at all when I just had 1. If you were already wondering if you had done the rght thing before this then it won't have helped at all. Swaddlng an 8 month old doesn't sound right in what was probably already a warm room, we just put light sheets over our sleeping children or a blanket if it is cold that day. Did the manager saay or do you know if they check the children while they are sleeping?? We have to check them every 5 minutes to see that they are not too hot etc
